I was talking to a friend one time commending my husband about something he did (which I don’t remember what was that anymore). She told me to make a post about it here. I said I’ll post it on father’s day for a husband appreciation post. I moved it to his birth month hehe.
Here ya go. Tagalog para may kilig ❤
To begin with, we met ten years ago – 2008, sa Student Council Leadership Training. Magka-commission kami. Naalala ko siya kasi naging classmate ko siya 3 sems before that pero hindi ko talaga siya kilala until nga nung LTS. Medyo nayayabangan ako sa kanya saka pabibo pero I’d admit may something na sa kanya non at lagi ko siyang napapansin secretly. May part non na maglalagay ng letter sa box ng bawat isa, nagsulat ata siya don e pero di siya nagpakilala. So after ng LTS, close na lahat ng officers. GM GM (uso pa GM nun – group message o send to all sa keypad phone, ganon) nakareceive ako ng message nakalagay El Gwapito. GM yun guys, wag kayong ano. (haha). Nagtanong ako kung sino siya, nagpakilala naman siya. Nakuha niya daw yung number ko sa isang ka-officer na ka-close ko. So after nun, madalas na siya nagtetext. Akala ko GM pa din, yun pala PM na – sakin nalang nakasend. Ayun, naging palagay naman agad yung loob ko sa kanya. Simula non, lagi na kaming magka-text. To make the story short, naging kami.
He wasn’t actually the one I was looking for pero ano’ng magagawa ko, siya yung binigay ni Lord. Haii (haha). Kidding aside, I knew even in the beginning that he’s the one. He was the only person who cared for me before himself at isa yun sa mga bagay na sobra sobrang naappreciate ko sa kanya. He made me feel that I can be proud of, he’s always proud of me. He was not afraid to show the world how much I mean to him. Over the years, he’s been there – in my best and in my worse.
He’s been supportive of me in everything that I do. When I failed the exam during our training, I called him crying. I felt his comfort kahit over the phone lang. When I lost my first job after two months of being hired and needed to transfer to another company, siya yung nagpalakas ng loob ko para ituloy yung application. My family didn’t know I was retrenched because during that time, I couldn’t lose my job just like that. Nalipat ako ng company ng hindi nila alam. In less than six months, I transferred again to another company. This time, sa isang TV network. I felt his genuine happiness along with mine because it was my dream.
Sa TV network na yun, madami akong pinagdaanan. Every time na maisstress ako, sa kanya ako tumatawag. Minsan, tinawagan ko siya, hindi ko alam na nasa meeting siya. He calmed me down first before going back to his meeting. Sobrang naappreciate ko talaga yun.
We married on our 6th year together. It was the best decision I’ve ever made. We made a lot of adjustments in the beginning, though. Kahit pala matagal na kami in the relationship, marami parin pala akong hindi alam sa kanya – things I only discovered when we started living under the same roof. Good and bad, I never loved him less, anyway.
Nung nag-resign ako sa TV Network months after we got married, nirespeto niya yon. Sa Ortigas ako nalipat, sa Ayala siya nagtatrabaho noon. Gabi-gabi, matyaga niya akong hinihintay sa
tagpuan (naks) sa Quezon Ave kung saan kami sasakay pauwi. Kapag mahirap ang biyahe o umuulan, o kagaya nung may Iglesia na nag-rally sa EDSA, sinundo niya ako sa Megamall at magkasama kaming nagpalipas ng oras doon.
I was a new hire in Ortigas when we found out I was pregnant. Ang saya saya saya niya non. Nakita ko yung saya niya the first time we saw the little kid through the ultrasound. Sinabihan naman kami noon na wag masyadong ma-excite kasi sobrang liit pa but of course, the super excited dad to be made an announcement in facebook immediately. Unfortunately, a week after my daily commute to and from Ortigas, we lost the baby. Nakita ko kung gaano siya kalugmok non that he literally cried in front of me. While I cried every night, he made sure to embrace me to give me comfort.
Ilang buwan ang lumipas, nag-positive ulit ang pregnancy test ko. He was supportive enough to allow me to work pero I was having cramps again. To keep the baby safe, he insisted I should quit. While I was on bed rest, he was doing his best to provide for us. Ganyan siya, he gives his best in everything he do. I can see naman that he puts his family on top priority.
When I gave birth, that’s when he started jumping from one company to another. Siyempre, growing family. At the same time, he also wanted a job that would not eat most of his time so he can still have time with our daughter. Finally, he landed in his present company na flexible ang working hours, he can work at home, okay ang pay at ang benefits. As a father and a husband, he always put our needs first before anything else.
Parenting was never an easy feat. It was challenging lalo na with the little kid who is so much demanding of time. Medyo mahirap lalo na sa una. Mister has always been patient with us. He recognizes how the little kid needs attention and so he helps as much as he can lalo na sa gawaing bahay. He was my set of extra hands. Hats off for a man who do household chores even after a tiring day at work.
When I lost my dad, I was shattered. Usually, I take initiative in processing of documents but that time, parang wala bigla akong alam. I can’t face people, parang bigla akong naging unorganized, talagang blank ako. He was my strength. Nagpaka-strong siya non while I was at my weakest. Siya yung naging sandalan ko, namin actually. Siya yung naging malakas sa bahay. Parang sinalo niya kami ni mama.
After non, I have come to a point na pakiramdam ko ang bigat bigat lagi ng araw ko. Gabi palang iniisip ko na yung gagawin ko kinabukasan at pagod na pagod na ako. Pakiramdam ko non walang tumutulong sa’kin. Siguro, I was pressured from the loss of my father kasi ako na ang toka sa lahat, pati si mama kargo ko na. Idagdag mo pa ang pagka-clingy at kulit ng anak ko. My days went heavy. Bago kami magbakasyon nun sa Mindoro. Pagbalik namin ng Manila, mas naging hands on siya kay Jhia. He allowed me to spend some time for my hobbies para hindi naman ako palaging occupied ng gawaing bahay. Nakakapag me time na din ako para makarelax din paminsan. Alam ko naman na pagod din siya sa trabaho pero ewan, for some reason, talagang heavy hearted lang ako nun. He was my saviour, he saved me.
He is a responsible man. He always aims to give us a good life. He works hard to provide for us without sacrificing too much of his time. I have to admit that I’m very particular with his time, lalo na when it comes to Jhia. Naiinis ako kapag sinusungitan niya yung bata. For me, no matter how exhausting his day was, hindi niya dapat idamay yung family time. He eventually learned to manage his emotions sa work and sa family. He learned to adjust.
Just as when we’re arranging our timeline and trying to get back to our activities pre-Jhia, we were blessed with another baby. It came by surprise, totally unexpected. He immediately requested for a constant work from home schedule to help in the household especially with Jhia. Not to mention also that I am more sensitive in this pregnancy than before, he took charge of everything at home, no complaints!
He’s no perfect person, our relationship isn’t perfect. We annoy each other, we fight over silly things, we have opposite ideas. Marami kaming pagkakaiba. Marami na rin akong nagwang mali sa buhay ko but God gave me more than I feel like I deserve. One of them is you. Siguro sabi niya I’ve gone through so much since birth kaya hindi na niya ako pinahirapang mahanap siya.
I will forever be grateful for having a husband like him. I keep on saying before na siguro I deserve to be alone kasi lagi nalang akong iniiwan pero with him around, I never felt alone. He was always there in all walks of life. Wala lang, I really feel like he deserves an appreciation post for everything he did and keeps on doing for us. I never thought that marriage is this beautiful or maybe I just knew it because I have him.
In this life, there is no perfect journey. You’ll laugh, you’ll cry, you’ll stumble and fall. You’ll fail at one point or another. But God will never let you walk this life alone. There will always be someone who will take the journey with you. Meron siyang inilaan para sayo. If ever man na hindi mo pa nakikita, baka nireready ka palang niya at yung taong para sayo kaya wag ka sana mainip. Makikita mo din yung sagot niyang burger sa nirequest mong tinapay.
Thank you, Lord!