Realities of Relationship (reposted)

The guy who loves his mom will be a good boyfriend. Why? Because if he has high respect for his mother, he will have high respect for women.

Don’t give everything away. Leave some things a mystery. Guys love conquest. If you already give your all, wala nang “something to look forward to” sa relationship nyo. And the guy will become kampante. Assure him of your love and faithfulness, but warn him too: “Umayos ka diyan! You can lose me anytime…”

BIG PAGKAKAIBA: What a girl needs most is love. What a guy needs most  is respect. The most important thing for a girl is her heart. For a guy, it’s her ego.

 

Give your man his own time and space. let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self and God. The relationship will grow old quickly if lage kayong magkasama. Give his time to miss you and you’ll see how he will love you more. If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to be with you all the time, tell him you can’t respect a ‘puppy’ for long.

 

Do things differently anytime para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and new. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting baga.

Making love” is better than just “having sex“. And true love “waits”. Save your ‘precious gift’ on your wedding night. Di nagiging tama ang mali, just because uso naman and everyone’s doing it. Be iba.

Discover something you both like to do  and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning about it kahit konti. If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a loooooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny, no? Maybe, but it’s very powerful. Pag may takot sa Diyos ang boyfriend mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that before you part after date, with hold hands and eyes close, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me, it’s effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Believe in “magic”. Kahit di minsan practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things for the one you love kahit na magmukha ka ng timang. The memories will be fun to recall later in life. The corniest song o gift o letter (aminin mo) ang laging kabog!

True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your boyfriend and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

It’s healthy to fight. Doon nyo lang maayos ang differences nyo at natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti. It’s called the test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is how often you make bati. Mas nakakatakot yung relationship na sobrang perfect. One big fight and that’s it! And diba mas kilig yung malambing na “Uy, bati na tayo..”. But don’t overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori. Choose the battles na papatulan mo. The little issues, palampasin mo na. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Daraan sa ibat ibang stages ang love especially kung matagal na kayo. Grow with it. Don’t expect him to be like nung una. ‘Coz like a student, di na ituturo sa grade six yung lessons na pang-grade two. Change will happen. You both will change and your love will change too, It’s up to you na lang if the change will be for the better or for the worse. Life is about growth. Grow with it.

When break up comes and it’s time to say goodbye, don’t doubt the love just because it didn’t last. May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn’t mean na hindi ito totoo. Some good things are just never meant to last forever. Okay lang  yon. Bless the parting and move on. Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga, ‘It’s when you hurt the worse that you love the most‘. Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka nalang magmahal.

Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man and when to let him go. God will guide you kung anong dapat gawin sa kung anung sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng langit sa cellfone ng puso mo to know his wisdom.

-ymhej-

10.23.2012

 

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